Come Grieve Through Our Eyes

When someone you care about loses a child, it can be hard to understand what they are going through or know how to help.

You may want to offer comfort but worry about saying something hurtful. You may wonder why their grief still feels so intense, why familiar activities have become difficult or why they seem like a different person.

Come Grieve Through Our Eyes invites you into the world of a bereaved parent, helping you understand what often remains unseen and find meaningful ways to offer support.

Preorder the second edition for only $10.
Releasing October 12, 2026.

“I wish you understood.”

The death of a child reaches into nearly every part of a parent’s life. It can affect their relationships, their faith, their sense of identity and even their ability to manage ordinary daily tasks. Much of that struggle happens quietly, beneath what others can see.

Explaining all of that can be exhausting. Sometimes, bereaved parents cannot find the words to express what they are experiencing.

Come Grieve Through Our Eyes: How to Support a Bereaved Parent After Child Loss helps you understand what a bereaved parent may struggle to put into words, so you can offer care that meets them where they are.

Written by bereaved mom, Laura Diehl, this newly revised second edition helps family members, friends and church communities understand what parents are carrying and how to offer meaningful support as time goes on.

You do not have to understand everything about a parent’s grief to become someone they feel safe with. Being willing to learn can help them feel less alone and more understood.

A newly revised second edition

This second edition has been thoughtfully rewritten and expanded, with a warm, conversational approach that brings readers closer to the everyday experiences of bereaved parents.

Whether the loss happened recently or many years ago, these pages will help you recognize needs that are easily overlooked and offer care that continues beyond the first weeks and months.

Inside, you will find understanding and guidance about:

• Why time itself does not heal the pain of child loss.
• Grief that returns unexpectedly, even years later.
• The physical effects of grief and reactions that may seem confusing.
• Remembering a child’s birthday and the anniversary of their death.
• Changes in friendships, family relationships and a parent’s identity.
• Sibling grief and the experience of losing an only child or all children.
• Spiritual struggles and offering faith-based comfort with tenderness.
• Respecting boundaries and supporting a parent as they begin to experience hope again.

Throughout the book, you will meet the word pareavor, a term for a bereaved parent. It gives a name to an identity none of us wanted, but one that deserves to be recognized and understood.

A meaningful resource for churches and those who offer care

Come Grieve Through Our Eyes is a helpful resource for family members, friends, pastors, ministry leaders, counselors and anyone who walks alongside a bereaved parent.

It also makes a meaningful addition to a church library. Having it available can help a congregation offer thoughtful, ongoing support to parents whose grief may continue long after others assume they are doing better.

Sometimes, the person who needs this understanding is someone you already know. Sometimes, it is someone you have yet to meet.

If you are a bereaved parent yourself

Although this book was written to help others understand us, there is something here for you, too.

You may recognize thoughts you have struggled to explain, feelings you wondered whether anyone else had or reasons everyday life has become so exhausting. These pages can help you feel seen and put words to experiences that have been difficult to share.

You can also offer this book to someone who wants to understand what you are going through. When explaining your grief feels like more than you can manage, it can help begin that conversation for you.

Your love for your child remains. Healing does not require you to let go of that love or pretend their death did not happen.

About Laura Diehl

Laura Diehl is an award-winning author, speaker, singer, podcast host and, most importantly, a bereaved mom. After the death of her daughter, Becca, in 2011, Laura and her husband, Dave, founded Grieving Parents Sharing Hope, known as GPS Hope.

Through her books, the award-winning GPS Hope podcast and other ministry resources, Laura walks alongside bereaved parents with gentle, faith-based encouragement. She also helps those around them better understand the lasting impact of child loss and how to offer meaningful support.

Help someone feel understood

You may not be able to take away a parent’s pain, but you can help them feel less alone in it. Learning to see through their eyes is a meaningful place to begin.

The second edition releases on October 12, 2026, which is the fifteenth anniversary of Becca’s graduation to heaven. It is a deeply personal date for Laura and a meaningful opportunity to honor Becca’s life by helping others better understand parents who are missing their children.

Preorder your copy through GPS Hope for only $10.

Consider a copy for yourself, someone who wants to support you or your church library.