I am going to really open myself up here. Recently I found myself crying before the Lord as the Holy Spirit showed me areas that out of my own hurts and out of my own weak and fleshly nature, I did things to my children and hurt them, which has caused them to feel rejection from me.
First, let me say as parents, we all make mistakes. There is no such thing as perfect parents. All of our parents did things that “damaged” us. We have all done things that “damage” our children. And when we turn these things over to God, He will bring healing, and help us (and our children) to be overcomers in these exact areas.
I grew up feeling rejected by my mom. I know it was not done intentionally, and I know her heart now as an adult, but as a child I just really struggled with it, as an area the enemy was able to get in and mess me up. Earlier last year, the Lord showed me it was a generational curse that needed to be broken. My mom struggled in this area with her mom, I struggled in this area with my mom, and my youngest daughter struggled in this area with me.
But even after the chain of something like this is broken, there is still the “fall-out” of the results of those actions that we still find ourselves dealing with. And often there are inner wounds that need a healing.
This particular morning, I saw where I had probably created deep wounds, especially in my daughter. I began to really cry out to God for that specifically, and literally, with many tears. I wanted to speak the Word of God over this situation, but was pretty sure there was nothing in the Bible to specifically deal with this. I continued to cry out to God until I felt a release from it.
Right now I am reading through a chronological study Bible, which means it’s not in the normal order that we’re used to. It is put together in the order of how things happened chronologically in the Bible. For instance, when reading about the week leading up to Jesus’ crucifixion, it pulls from all four of the gospels, putting the scriptures in the order of what happened. In the Old Testament when reading about David, it will throw in different parts of the book of Psalms, based on what we know was written at that time, or what might have been written during a particular time in his life.
After my time of prayer, I opened my Bible up to where my bookmark sat, and was totally stunned as I read Psalm 69:5-6, “O God, You know my foolishness; and my sins are not hidden from You. Let not those who wait for You, O Lord GOD of hosts, be ashamed because of me; let not those who seek You be confounded because of me…” (NKJV)
That was exactly, exactly, what my heart had just been literally crying out to the Lord for; that my children will not continue to be deeply affected (ashamed or confounded) because of me and my foolishness and my past sins toward them growing up.
Since this encouraged me so much, I want to use it to encourage you in two specific ways.
- Allow the Holy Spirit to put his finger on things in your life; areas of your foolishness and sins that have affected others.
God wants to bring healing, to both you and them.
I have a friend who is dealing with that very thing right now. She began choosing to force herself to forgive people for deeply hurting her, and within a week, God was restoring relationships that she thought were absolutely impossible to be restored.
I want to encourage you to cry out to God for forgiveness in relationships. I believe this is a time of restoration.
2. The other thing is to encourage you to get into the Word, because God’s Word brings freedom. God promises that his Words will not return to us void. His Words will not return to us empty. His Word will do what He sends it out to do.
God’s Word is life. When you speak His Word, and hold His Word up to Him, you are speaking His Life and His Truth.
His Word is power. His word breaks the bondages and the strongholds that are in your life.
So speak the Word. Speak it out loud. Lift it up to God, and watch Him do exactly what He says He will do.
It might not happen immediately like my friend. I know someone that has been in a situation for over three years where there have been wounds, and suffering the effects of those wounds, even though forgiveness has been given.
I know without a doubt that God gave me this Word in Psalm 69, directly related to the cry of my heart. It wasn’t a coincidence. It was the Holy Spirit, because it’s his time to bring more healing.
So I encourage you. It’s time. It’s time to speak the Word. It’s time to walk in forgiveness. And it’s time to allow God to bring restoration and healing into relationships that need this. Do your part, and then let God do His part, in His time. He is always faithful to perform His Word.
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