The Struggle of Waiting

Waiting is one of the hardest things to do, especially for parents who have lost a child. We find ourselves waiting for two things: for the pain to lessen, and for the day we’ll be reunited with our child again.

I’ve spent countless hours waiting—through Becca’s surgeries, Dave’s bypass surgery, and many other challenging moments. I once heard that the Biblical meaning of “wait” is “a carved work,” meaning that in the waiting process, God is doing a deep, unseen work in us. I’ve felt that deeply, especially in the aftermath of Becca’s death.

Trusting God in the Pain

While I don’t believe God caused Becca’s death, I do believe that He is present with us in our pain. He allows us the free will to make choices, but that doesn’t mean He leaves us when things go wrong. In our pain, He is doing a deep, hidden work in our hearts—transforming us even when we can’t see it.

The Question of Healing

Many grieving parents ask, “When will it stop hurting so much?” The pain can feel all-consuming, and we wonder if we’ll ever feel whole again. I remember one grieving parent saying she couldn’t imagine ever celebrating Christmas again. But with time, she slowly began to do so, just like I began to hope again.

Hope is powerful, even in the darkest moments. I still struggle at times, like when I miss Becca so deeply it overwhelms me. But deep inside, I know that hope is not gone. God promises that He is with us through it all, and one day, we’ll be healed.

The Power of Waiting

When we wait, God works in ways we can’t always see. The pain may never fully go away, but in the waiting, God is doing a carved work in us. So, even when you feel overwhelmed, remember that God is at work. Keep waiting. Keep hoping.

Your healing is coming, and you are not alone.

This was taken from the Grieving Parents Sharing Hope podcast, episode 261.

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