As Christians, we hear quite often, “It’s not about you. It’s all about Him.” We even lift our hands as we sing worship songs that indicate this. I may be stirring up a Christian bee’s nest, but I don’t fully believe that. Let me tell you why.
God refers to us as the following:
- We are His children (and He is our Abba, Father)
- We are His sheep
- We are His friends
- We are the Bride of His Son
If it is all about Him, and not about us,
- Why did Jesus tell us He was leaving so the Holy Spirit could come and live inside each one of us?
- Why did God make a covenant with us, putting Himself on both sides of it so that we can’t get out of it?
- Why didn’t God just leave us in sin after Adam and Eve disobeyed Him?
- Why did Jesus say He came to seek and save those who were lost?
- Why does God encourage us through Paul to run the race and finish well?
- Why did Jesus say He was going to prepare a place for us to live with Him forever?
- Why are we told what signs to look for to let us know Jesus’ return is getting close?
- Why bother sending the Holy Spirit at all, to lead and guide us into all truth?
Why? Because God is a personal God, who wants a personal, intimate relationship with each one of us.
In God’s eyes, life here on earth is about you, and it is about me!
Yes, we walk by faith, and not by sight. Yes, we are not to live our lives based on feelings. But the ability to have feelings and emotions came from God. When you hear someone say, “It’s not about you. It’s about Him,” how does that make you feel? Do you feel closer to God? Probably not.
When a daughter wants her daddy’s attention, how would she feel if he tells her, “It doesn’t matter what you want. It isn’t about you; it’s about me and what I want. Leave me alone!”?
If a person contacts his or her best friend to ask them to hang out, is it normal for that friend to say, “It doesn’t matter what you want. It’s not about you and what you want to do.”?
Would a groom tell his new wife on their honeymoon, “This marriage isn’t about you. It’s all about me and what I want out of it!”?
Of course not!
Then why do we think our relationship with God is all about Him and none of it is about us?
If it’s not about you, who did Jesus come to die for? Why did God give us the written Word to teach us how to live in a way that brings us His blessings? Why do we seek Him to find out what gifts He has placed in us and what He created us to do and be while living on this earth?
God wants us to come to him with our fears, our anxieties, our burdens, our sicknesses, our loneliness, and any other negative thoughts and feelings we have, so that He can exchange them for His peace, joy, health, mercy, compassion, and unconditional extravagant love!
Now that I think about it, that actually sounds like a pretty one-sided relationship. This exchange makes it sound like it is almost all about you and me!
But it isn’t just about you or me. And it isn’t just about Him. It is all about the relationship. It is all about “we” and “us.”
This understanding is not something that inflates our ego and makes us strut with pride. Instead, it is something very humbling, which causes us to want to love Him deeply in return, to worship Him and live our lives for Him.
And so, we discover it is all about being caught up in a circle of love. The more we receive His love, the more we want to return it, which opens the door for us to receive even more from Him, which causes us to be even more in love with Him, and on it goes.
Yes, it IS about me, and you, AND God. Aren’t you thankful for that?