This week’s topic is one that can bring a lot of emotion with it, because when our child is gone, all we have left are memories and their belongings.
Should we be packing up their things by a certain time? What if I want to keep everything and take it with me if I have to move? These kinds of questions (and answers) take us all over the place with how different our situations are and where we are on this unwanted journey, and that’s okay.
Listen in as Laura shares from several parents on this subject, (including some who lost their child over thirty years ago) as well as some of her own experiences and thoughts.
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Birthdays:
Frank Cisewski was born on August 22 and left us at age 34.
Evan Sabine was born on August 23 and left us at age 15.
Katie Mullen was born on August 24 and left us at age 19.
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AS always, Laura, your messages have compassion, understanding and always uplifting. Today the latter helped me as I was clearing out past birthday cards from my sons. My birthday is coming up in a few days time. I have a heap of past cards, and they are so precious to me, especially from Mark, the youngest who died after an accident abroad five and a half years ago. I have been crying since reading through the cards from Mark, as he always wrote in them such caring words of thanks and joy. He lived at home with us, so the hurt is still deep as we saw him every day….. he was always home for the evening meal! I was doing OK until February this year, the anniversary of his death. Cannot seem to budge from this cloak of gloom and have lost interest in things I used to enjoy. I must try and shake this sadness off of me as, my birthday is this Saturday, and my eldest son, Dale, and his girlfriend, have organised a ‘treat’ in London for me. They and my husband are excited about it, but I feel no enthusiasm for anything. What has happened to me? Five and a half years and I miss Mark so very much and still feel anger towards God for not healing him. I don’t attend church much as cannot sing praise songs to God as I’d be a fraud. it all feels so empty – yet I still believe??
Hi Eve, I am sorry I am just now seeing this… the notice for it ended up in my spam folder. Sometimes the grief hits us all over again and takes us down for a lengthy time. Quite often there just does not seem to be any obvious reason for it. Frustrating for sure. Feel free to email me any time laura@gpshope. I would love to hear from you and chat back and forth.
Hi Laura – This weeks Topic is timely as you mentioned my Katie’s birthday and going thru her things weighs heavy on my heart. Her room is a storage of all her things. Not exactly how she left it as she was sgg tv college and we had to clean her dorm room out and bring it home… coming up next month in four years ago. I have gifted a few things to her friends Early on and had blankets made from some T-shirts… but most things are in her room. I go in each night and either just say good night or a short prayer…, other than that I can’t spend much time in there. Katie said to me once… when I asked her how she liked some seasonal room decor… “When I get older, I’m going to spend my money on experiences, not g to bings!” I can hear it in my mind so clearly – yet I can’t do it!! I feel like that was a gift… and I think of it often yet I can’t bring myself to do it and I think it’s the act of doing it more than the things… 💔
You will know when it is time… it will just happen. It’s okay that it has been four years and you still cannot do anything with it. Hugs!