If you are like me, there always seems to be one or two things that just seem to continually be a problem area in my life. I have asked the Lord to show me how to get a breakthrough once and for all. He has given me four simple steps to follow, which I thought I would share with you.

Let’s look at what they are, and then let’s break each one down just a bit.

1. Repent (yeah, yeah, we know this, right?)
2. Spend time asking the Holy Spirit for needed adjustments
3. Seek wise counsel
4. Obey

The first one, “repent,” can do one of two things when we see it as the first step. It can be something we have heard so often that we basically ignore it (without even realizing it), or it can ruffle our feathers. Oftentimes, I don’t like to admit that it is my sin which has me in this continual struggle. I am guessing you might feel the same way. It might be not doing what I know I should be doing. It could be doubting that God is able to change me. Maybe it is fear of a certain outcome, so I try to manipulate the circumstances to go the way I think they should. It could be the problem itself that I know is missing the mark for God’s best for my life, which makes it a sin for me.

If we cannot do this first step (or try to pass over it), it is because there is pride in our lives that will not allow us to admit that there is something we are doing wrong. If that is the case, we need to back up and repent of our pride, allowing God to deal with us in this area. Once I don’t have pride keeping me from admitting that I am not perfect, just like no one is perfect, and that’s okay, then I can go on to repent about the specific area which has caused this to be a continual problem in my life.

It is important to remind ourselves that repentance is not just saying we are sorry. Repentance is an actual change of direction. It is stopping our direction, turning, and going a new direction. Just saying we are sorry and asking for forgiveness is not repentance, if there is not a changed heart that changes our actions.

Is it possible this is where the root of our problem actually lies? We can tell God over and over again that we are sorry, because we want to be forgiven, but we don’t really want the needed change to take place which will take us in a different direction. We all seem to have “pet sins” we make excuses for and don’t want to release. If that is the case, invite God into your heart and your soul (which is your mind, your will, and  your emotions). Ask Him to give you the desire to change. He has done that for me in the past, and He will do it for you.

Next, we need to spend time with the Holy Spirit, asking Him to tell us the adjustments that need to be taken to cause the new direction we need. What works for one person will not work for another. We are all unique individuals.

Quite often, people lead us to believe that “one-size-fits-all” when it comes to solutions to the problems in our lives. The Holy Spirit knows us better than we know ourselves. There have been so many times I have asked God to show me my heart, so that I can see a direction I need to take. So often I am very surprised when he shows me something I had no idea was there, but as I pray into it, I find out He is right. This spotlight into my heart exposes what needs to be exposed, allowing me to pull it out from the roots that grow in my heart where no one sees, and get rid of it once and for all.

The Holy Spirit might reveal something we feel is huge. Something so overwhelming, that He is going to have to help us make that adjustment or uproot it. Or, it could be one tiny thing that seems almost insignificant.

If you are walking on a straight line, and you angle just one step as tiny as a 1° angle, it is not going to make hardly any difference at all in that initial step. But as you continue taking steps, that 1° angle becomes 5° away from the original line, then 20°, eventually 50° and so on. The farther you continue to walk, the further and further away you will get from the place God has for you (which is a problem…).

This is why it is so important to listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit living inside of you. Not just once in a while when you need help with a big problem, but on a continual, regular basis. One of the reasons the Holy Spirit was sent to us is to be our Guide. He is not going to lead you in the wrong direction. So make sure you go to Him before you go to others.

Which leads to step number three. Once you get direction from the Holy Spirit, talk to one or two people who can add godly wisdom and counsel to what the Holy Spirit has shown you. They may have valuable insight into how to practically walk it out. Plus, they can pray with you, they can encourage you, and they can hold you accountable to what the Holy Spirit has spoken to you about this change you want in your life.

Some people don’t like accountability, because then it means someone holds them responsible for their actions, and knows if they mess up. But if you truly want this new start to an old problem in your life, that is exactly what you will want. If having someone with godly wisdom and love holding you accountable is a struggle for you, once again, ask the Holy Spirit to heal and change your heart to see it as the right and good thing that it is.

And that takes us to step number four.

If you want a new start with an old problem, you must obey what God has shown you to do or not do. Obedience is the key to all of this.

Just like a child, there will be times you don’t want to obey. When a child does not obey, there are always consequences. It is no different with us as a child of God. Most of us might not want to admit it, but the bottom line is that many of the issues we deal with are probably because we struggle in this area of obedience. We know what we should be doing, and we just don’t do it. But we expect God to bless us anyway, even in our disobedience. Do you reward your child for disobedience, or do you reward your child for obedience? Our reward is in our obedience. We must get to the point where we choose to obey whether we feel like it or not.

That is where the counsel and the accountability come in.

That is why hearing directly from the Holy Spirit is crucial.

That is why repentance must be the first step in all of this.

Just because it is four simple steps does not mean it is easy. But there is a way to have a new start with an old problem, if we want it. I say let’s go for it together! Let’s make sure 2016 is a year where we finally have the breakthrough we want (and God has provided) for our lives. Let’s do it, once and for all.

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For many years I have loved 2 Chronicles 16:9, “For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to him.” It has often been one of my “go to” verses when I have needed Him to step in and “save the day.”

I recently realized this verse is even stronger in its meaning when placed within its context.

Asa was the king of Judah (which was the southern kingdom of Israel after it was divided). A prophet told him in a Scripture familiar to many of us, “The Lord is with you while you are with him. If you seek him, he will be found by you; but if you forsake him, he will forsake you” 2 Chronicles 15:2. (By the way, Asa was also the king that was told the familiar Scripture, “be strong and do not let your hands be weak, for your work shall be rewarded,” 2 Chronicles 15:7.)

Asa took God up on that, and was a good king, doing what was right in the eyes of the Lord, removing the altars of the foreign gods and causing Judah to go back to seeking the one true Jehovah God. This gave him God’s blessing and favor in his life. God gave his kingdom rest on every side, and they were able to build up their cities and prosper.

Then one day, an army of one million men from Ethiopia came against him. Asa’s army only had 580,000 men.

I am sure at this point, he remembered something that happened to his dad, King Abijah. An army of 800,000 men from the kingdom of Israel came against Abijah’s 400,000. The attacking king split up his troops and set an ambush behind them, so Abijah and his army were surrounded. In other words, there was no hope for their survival. But God Himself struck the attackers, because Abijah and the people cried out to God for help.

So now it is Asa’s turn, and he cried out, “Lord, there is no one but You to help in the battle between the powerful and the weak. So help us, O Lord God. For we trust in You.” (2 Chronicles 14:11). Once again, the Lord Himself struck the enemy, and the nation of Judah prevailed. Not only did they prevail, but they plundered all the spoil of the enemy!

Let’s go forward a few years. Israel is coming against him like they did his father. But this time, instead of seeking the Lord, he contacted the king of Syria, giving him gold and silver from the treasuries of the house of the Lord and of his own house, to get Syria to come help him fight.

They won the war, but a prophet was sent by God to give King Asa a message. First, Asa was reminded how God delivered them from the Ethiopians a few years earlier. And next is when the prophet spoke the words, “The eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to him.”

Because Asa had been foolish, and not looked to God as his source of help, he was told from that point on there would always be wars for him. Asa didn’t like that word from God and had the prophet thrown in prison, but that did not stop God’s word from coming to pass in his life.

So being told God is searching the earth, looking for those who are committed to Him, is in the context of somebody being reprimanded who knew better, but did NOT seek the Lord. It was spoken to someone who had seen God’s hand of faithfulness more than once, but for some reason failed to trust God at that specific time of opposition.

The hardest battle I have ever found myself in was the death of my oldest daughter, a little over four years ago. It took me to a very suffocating dark place. Most parents stay in that place for many years, and some never fully come out of it. It was definitely something that was beyond what I could fight for myself, and the enemy was lined up against me to keep me there in defeat.

Most Christian parents who lose a child are extremely angry at God for not stopping the death of their child. And it becomes even worse when they hear someone give a testimony about how God miraculously spared someone’s life. “Why didn’t He do that for my child? What kind of a God is He, that he would let that person live and let my child die?”

If I wanted to survive this battle, and not only survive but take the spoils of the enemy, I had to cry out to God. And I did. For hours and hours, for days, weeks, and months on end, I cried out to God to pull me out of this black pit that I had been so horrendously thrown into, and to defeat the enemy staring me down.

Somehow I knew, groping around in the darkness, that my only hope to come out of that black pit was by asking Him to come down there with me and fight on my behalf. (And wrote about my battle in a book being published by Morgan James Publishing which will be out in stores July 2016.)

I realized quite early in my life that it doesn’t do any good to fight against God.

Even though there may be deep wounds caused on the battlefield, God can use those wounds in a way that makes us stronger, also causing us to have a greater trust in His love for us, and be more in love with Him after each battle. The victory may not look like what I thought it was going to, but I can usually see where His battle plan really was better than mine. And I have discovered that any wounds I suffered were worth the personal victories I gained.

What battle are you are facing today, this week, this month, or this season of your life?

Don’t be like Asa and think this one is just too big for God. Remember, He is actively searching for those who are in a place that is impossible to get out of in their own strength and in their own wisdom.

And don’t just sit around blaming God that you are surrounded. Instead, invite God onto your battlefield. He has never lost any war He stepped into, and He is not about to start now!

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Do you really know and believe that God is for you? If you don’t, you are going to live in a lot of fear.

Most of us are very familiar with 2 Timothy 1:7, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”

How can we come against that spirit of fear? One thing is to saturate ourselves in the truth of God’s Word. Not just say it in our heads, but take the time to let it settle into our hearts, so that we believe it in a way that changes our thoughts, which changes our actions, and the way we live our lives.

Take a moment and think about what the result of these three scriptures would look like, if the truth of them were fully at work in your life.

• Romans 8:31, “If God is for us, who can be against us?” (NJV)
• Ps. 37:8, “Don’t fret and worry—it only leads to harm.” (TLB)
• Phil. 4:6,7 “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (NKJV)

Here is that last scripture in the Message version.

“Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.”

Now that is something to spend some time thinking about!

I am sure we can all agree with the scripture in 1 Timothy that fear can cause torment. Especially fear about the future (and even more so when it comes to the future of our children). Once again, the Word of God has something to say about that.

1 Jn. 4:18 “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.” (NKJV)

In other words, if you are living from a place of fear in your life, it shows you are not convinced of God’s unfailing extravagant love for you.

And that means you are going to make decisions in your life based on fear. Here is an acronym for the meaning of fear…F-E-A-R…

False Evidence Appearing Real

The enemy is good at doing that in our lives. He causes false things to look so real…things that God can step into and make change in an instant.  I often have to remind myself (out loud, making it easier to believe) that I walk by faith, not by sight.  I make my decisions based on what I know God has said, and is therefore true, and not based on what I see with my physical eyes or hear with my physical ears (and especially think with my run-away mind).

When I say God can step in and make things change in an instant, I also want to add that what He can change in an instant might not be the circumstance, but often it is my heart within the circumstance. He changes my perspective, showing me what He sees, and that can instantly move me from the torment of fear into the truth of faith.

Have you ever realized that both faith and fear are how we feel about the unknown?  We either live in fear, and make our decisions out of that fear of the unknown, OR we live in faith in God, and make our decisions about the unknown future based on our faith in Him to take care of whatever it is we cannot see.

Here are two more acronyms, describing what I just said.

Forget Everything And Run

Face Everything And Rise

Which one are you going to choose?

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I am going to really open myself up here. Recently I found myself crying before the Lord as the Holy Spirit showed me areas that out of my own hurts and out of my own weak and fleshly nature, I did things to my children and hurt them, which has caused them to feel rejection from me.

First, let me say as parents, we all make mistakes. There is no such thing as perfect parents. All of our parents did things that “damaged” us. We have all done things that “damage” our children. And when we turn these things over to God, He will bring healing, and help us (and our children) to be overcomers in these exact areas.

I grew up feeling rejected by my mom. I know it was not done intentionally, and I know her heart now as an adult, but as a child I just really struggled with it, as an area the enemy was able to get in and mess me up. Earlier last year, the Lord showed me it was a generational curse that needed to be broken. My mom struggled in this area with her mom, I struggled in this area with my mom, and my youngest daughter struggled in this area with me.

But even after the chain of something like this is broken, there is still the “fall-out” of the results of those actions that we still find ourselves dealing with. And often there are inner wounds that need a healing.

This particular morning, I saw where I had probably created deep wounds, especially in my daughter. I began to really cry out to God for that specifically, and literally, with many tears. I wanted to speak the Word of God over this situation, but was pretty sure there was nothing in the Bible to specifically deal with this. I continued to cry out to God until I felt a release from it.

Right now I am reading through a chronological study Bible, which means it’s not in the normal order that we’re used to. It is put together in the order of how things happened chronologically in the Bible. For instance, when reading about the week leading up to Jesus’ crucifixion, it pulls from all four of the gospels, putting the scriptures in the order of what happened. In the Old Testament when reading about David, it will throw in different parts of the book of Psalms, based on what we know was written at that time, or what might have been written during a particular time in his life.

After my time of prayer, I opened my Bible up to where my bookmark sat, and was totally stunned as I read Psalm 69:5-6, “O God, You know my foolishness; and my sins are not hidden from You.  Let not those who wait for You, O Lord GOD of hosts, be ashamed because of me; let not those who seek You be confounded because of me…” (NKJV)

That was exactly, exactly, what my heart had just been literally crying out to the Lord for; that my children will not continue to be deeply affected (ashamed or confounded) because of me and my foolishness and my past sins toward them growing up.

Since this encouraged me so much, I want to use it to encourage you in two specific ways.

1. Allow the Holy Spirit to put his finger on things in your life; areas of your foolishness and sins that have affected others.

God wants to bring healing, to both you and them.

I have a friend who is dealing with that very thing right now. She began choosing to force herself to forgive people for deeply hurting her, and within a week, God was restoring relationships that she thought were absolutely impossible to be restored.

I want to encourage you to cry out to God for forgiveness in relationships. I believe this is a time of restoration.

2.  The other thing  is to encourage you to get into the Word, because God’s Word brings freedom. God promises that his Words will not return to us void. His Words will not return to us empty. His Word will do what He sends it out to do.

God’s Word is life. When you speak His Word, and hold His Word up to Him, you are speaking His Life and His Truth.

His Word is power. His word breaks the bondages and the strongholds that are in your life.

So speak the Word. Speak it out loud. Lift it up to God, and watch Him do exactly what He says He will do.

It might not happen immediately like my friend. I know someone that has been in a situation for over three years where there have been wounds, and suffering the effects of those wounds, even though forgiveness has been given.

I know without a doubt that God gave me this Word in Psalm 69, directly related to the cry of my heart. It wasn’t a coincidence. It was the Holy Spirit, because it’s his time to bring more healing.

So I encourage you. It’s time. It’s time to speak the Word. It’s time to walk in forgiveness. And it’s time to allow God to bring restoration and healing into relationships that need this. Do your part, and then let God do His part, in His time. He is always faithful to perform His Word.

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