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October 4, 2016 by Laura Diehl 2 Comments

The Dreaded Anniversary Date

We are just a few days away from the five year anniversary of the death of my daughter, Becca. Like the rest of you, the first year was so very painful. The second year was shockingly worse, as if that were even possible! The third year was still painful, but the reality of having to learn who I was without my oldest child was setting in. Last year I did “okay,” but this five-year-thing has me very fragile.

What is it that makes this so hard? Is it because five 20150413_123127cyears seems such a long time? Is it because buried somewhere deep within me I know this is just the beginning? Is it because I have tried for the last three years to make sure my other children don’t think I loved Becca more than them, so when at home I do my best to pretend I am fine 95% of the time? Is it because my previous son-in-law took down her Facebook page saying five years was long enough and we need to move on (like he has with a new wife and son) so now I can no longer visit her there?

Or is the real reason the simple fact that I gave birth to her, raised her for 18 years, had her for one of my best friends for the next 11 years, and then in one moment’s time it was all taken away from me, and it just plain hurts, no matter how long it has been since she left us?

I find myself crying out to God at how desperately I still need Him for this grief I still struggle with. And what comes to me in the quietness of my soul is that a change in perspective can be very powerful.

Here are some of the things God reminds me of that can ease my pain, and make life livable again.

  1. I am not getting further away from Becca with each year. I am getting closer to her, as each day brings me closer to my own departure to be with her again.
  2. It’s only stuff. Yes, it is Becca’s stuff that I no longer have access to on Facebook, but no one can take away the part of her that lives forever in my heart, my mind, my memories… my very soul!
  3. While 29 years was not enough, it WAS! It happened! I was blessed with this daughter who brought so much joy (and many challenges with her stubbornness) to my life. I can finally say I would rather have had her for only 29 years than to not have had her at all.

I still cry, I still hurt (sometimes very deeply), but I also rejoice that this life is only temporary. And that leads me to the last change in perspective I want to share with you.

The anniversary of Becca’s death is also the day of her birth – her birth into a new body with both legs (her left leg was amputated because of bone cancer at age three) and a heart that is strong that no longer keeps her life so limited (since Becca suffered heart damage from the chemo, which is what eventually ended her life).  She didn’t get someone else’s used heart in a transplant that she so desperately needed here on earth. She got a brand new one that will never go bad on her again.

Painful grieving? Yes. But without hope? No.

So with that I will say, “Happy heavenly fifth birthday, Becca!”17903-balloons-pv

Expressions of Hope is written by author and speaker Laura Diehl to bring hope, light and life to bereaved parents, which she call pareavors. (Pa from the word parent, and reave from the root word bereave which means “plundered or robbed, deprive one of, seized, carry, or tear away.”) This is a pretty good description of who we are and what has happened to us.

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September 14, 2016 by Dave Diehl Leave a Comment

The Jezebel Jury – Part 2

In giving Laura a well deserved break, I (Dave) have decided to give this a shot.  This is part 2 of The Jezebel Jury.  If you haven’t already read part 1, I encourage you to click here to read it first.

We saw in part 1 that out of all the traits of the Old Testament Jezebel, the one trait that the woman Jesus named Jezebel in Rev. 2:20 was teaching and promoting sexual immorality and eating food sacrificed to idols.  This was done in complete defiance of the only “burden” the apostles put on the church, after a divisive argument about circumcision (see Acts 15:28-29).  So when it comes to the “spirit of Jezebel”, I believe it is critical to go with the definition Jesus gave in Revelation.  So why do so many define it based on the domineering traits of the Old Testament Jezebel?

The Jezebel

Many see the story of King Ahab as a weak man controlled by a domineering un-submissive wife that uses her husband’s powerful position for her purposes.    This perception is then used as part of their definition of a spirit of Jezebel.  The scripture isn’t specific about this, so it may or may not have been true.  However, I believe this view tends to overlook the true character of Ahab.  He was the the most evil King that Israel ever had, before he married Jezebel!  It’s my opinion that it was this evil in his heart that drew him to the wickedness of Baal worship and its sexual nature.

1 Kings 16:30-33 NIV “30 Ahab son of Omri did more evil in the eyes of the Lord than any of those before him. 31 He not only considered it trivial to commit the sins of Jeroboam son of Nebat, but he also married Jezebel daughter of Ethbaal king of the Sidonians, and began to serve Baal and worship him. 32 He set up an altar for Baal in the temple of Baal that he built in Samaria. 33 Ahab also made an Asherah pole and did more to arouse the anger of the Lord, the God of Israel, than did all the kings of Israel before him.”

Ahab not only did the evil of his fathers, but he then went on to marry Jezebel, a priestess of Baal worship.  While it is highly likely that this marriage was also for political purposes between two kingdoms, which was customary, it is also highly likely that Ahab, consumed with lust, purposefully choose Jezebel because of her close connection to Baal worship and its sexual debauchery.

Verse 32 & 33 says that Ahab set up the alters for Baal worship in Israel.  I am sure Jezebel was right there encouraging him, but I do not believe she manipulated him into it.  It was already a strong deception in his heart and she was right by his side.

There is no question that Jezebel was evil (I mean she was killing as many of the Lords prophets as possible and let Elijah know he was next).  It is said when two people are perfect for each other they are a “match made in heaven”.  These two were a match made in hell.  Her wickedness was only matched by his.

Then there is Naboth’s vineyard that Ahab wanted.  Interestingly enough, Ahab didn’t just take it, he offered Naboth a better vineyard or payment.  Naboth rightly said he could not, as it was the Lords inheritance.  It was forbidden for him to give it away even to the King.  purple-grapesAhab went away angry and sulked, refusing to eat (1 Kings 21:4).  Many use this to show how week Ahab was and Jezebel “wore the pants of the family”.  I see this a little differently.  I think Ahab was confronted with God’s word that he knew was true and didn’t know how to get past the dilemma and get what he wanted!  That’s why he didn’t just take the vineyard.  Jezebel in many ways is “standing by her man” here it seems.  Verse 7 “Jezebel his wife said, ‘is this how you act as king over Israel? Get up and eat! Cheer up. I’ll get you the vineyard of Naboth the Jezreelite.’”   Jezebel devised an evil plan to set up Naboth to be killed without implicating her or Ahab.  Once Naboth was dead, Ahab took the vineyard.

Many use 1 Kings 21:25 as evidence that Jezebel manipulated Ahab.  KJV “But there was none like unto Ahab, which did sell himself to work wickedness in the sight of the Lord, whom Jezebel his wife stirred up.”  NIV uses the term “urged on”.  Did Jezebel manipulate him?  Possibly, but I believe this scripture shows the type of relationship they had.  Have you ever seen when one person is complaining about something, how another will be in agreement with them and the two stir each other up into a frenzy?  This is what I see happening here.  The bottom line is Ahab is responsible for what he did to Israel with or without Jezebel!

So to me, it seems obvious that the “spirit of Jezebel” affecting the church is best defined as Jesus did in Rev. 2:20, “Nevertheless, I have this against you: You tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophet. By her teaching she misleads my servants into sexual immorality and the eating of food sacrificed to idols.”  It is teaching that sexual immorality is okay and so is eating food sacrificed to idols.  The church is urged not to allow that to be taught in their local fellowships.  Can you see this happening in America today, at least the sexual sin portion?

Don’t get me wrong, I do believe there is a spirit of control that can affect relationships as well, but I do not believe this should be considered the spirit of Jezebel (who was very domineering).  In some cases this may be why some accuse others of having the “spirit of Jezebel”.  Often those struggling with their own control issues will accuse others of the very thing of which they are guilty.  This is an area to be careful with as well.  Our natural flesh can have control issues.  Often we are just dealing with our fleshly nature.  However, if we refuse to allow God to deal with us in that area when He points it out to us, we can open a door for demonic activity in our lives.  Controlling spirits can affect the church greatly.  Have you seen it?  460px-Rock-paper-scissors.svgDeacon-elder boards controlling the pastor and what he preaches; pastors trying to control the congregation and boards; a congregation member withholding their financial support if they don’t get what they want.  I like how the book Conquering the Game of Control by Craig Green states it.  There are three types of control. Manipulation, intimidation and domination. A manipulator can control a dominator.  A dominator can control an intimidator and an intimidator can control a manipulator.  It’s like playing rock paper scissors.  The only way to win is to not play the game!

 

20150501_104633Gems from the Crown is a weekly blog from Crown of Glory Ministries to strengthen and encourage believers in Christ in their walk with God, especially in the areas of vision, authority, and identity. If you would like to have Gems from the Crown delivered directly to you, please click here.

 

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August 31, 2016 by Dave Diehl Leave a Comment

The Jezebel Jury

In giving Laura a well deserved break, I (Dave) have decided to write this week’s blog.

There has been a lot of buzz in some circles of the body of Christ about the Jezebel spirit.  Many books have been written about it, and messages preached on it.  It is a very serious thing.

The Jezebel

But I believe that in our fervency to make sure we don’t “tolerate that woman Jezebel” (Rev. 2:20) the enemy has used Christian leaders to falsely accuse people in the body of Christ of this (mostly woman), causing them to be deeply wounded in their spirit, if not lose their faith over it.  That is simply wrong, and a blemish we need to remove from our garments.

Many have defined the spirit of Jezebel as a strong controlling spirit.  Others believe it is an unsubmissive wife.  It is crucial we look at what the scripture says about this, so we fight the right fight and avoid wrongfully accusing our brothers and sisters of such a horrific thing.

First off, nowhere in scripture will you find the term “spirit of Jezebel.”  Scripture tells us of all sorts of types of spirits such as a “spirit of stupor” (Rom. 11:8), “an impure spirit” (Matt.12:43) “You deaf and mute spirit” (Mark 9:25) and others.  Now I am no Bible scholar, but what I find curious, is that the only place I’ve ever found where Jesus told a spirit to name itself was when He encountered the demon possessed man that lived among the tombs in Holy Spiritthe eastern coastal area of the Sea of Galilee in Mark 5:1-20.  Verse 9 says, “Then Jesus asked him, ‘What is your name?’  ‘My name is Legion,’ he replied, ‘for we are many.’”  So, other than this example, as far as I can  tell, naming of spirits is something man came up with, not a scriptural practice.  I’m not saying it’s wrong, I’m just making an observation that it may be subject to error, since it is man’s idea. (I also find it interesting that when the term spirit is used in the Bible, it is overwhelmingly referring to the Holy Spirit or an attribute of the Spirit of God.)

So where does this “spirit of Jezebel” get its name?  Let’s look at when Jesus told John to write to the church of Thyatira in Rev. 2:18-29.  Verse 20 “Nevertheless, I have this against you: You tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess. By her teaching she misleads my servants into sexual immorality and the eating of food sacrificed to idols.”

To better understand this, we need to understand the culture the church of Thyatira found itself in.  As a city in the Roman Empire, it was a center of trade and the home of worship of the Greek pagan god, Apollo.  Trade guilds ruled the economy and you had to be a member of a guild to practice your trade.  These guilds were intertwined in the culture and had constant meetings where members worshiped Apollo, sacrificed animals to him and had banquets serving meat sacrificed to him.  Worship also included having sex with the priestess.  Since you were required to be in a guild for employment, it was demanded that you take part in these daily rituals.  You can see the struggle the church had.  But unlike the counter cultural church in Smyrna that would endure persecution rather than worship another God, the church in Thyatira accommodated it.

red flagcBack to what Jesus said in Revelation, first, notice that this woman named Jezebel calls herself a prophetess. That should be an immediate red flag to anyone, especially church leaders.

Second, she was placed in a position of leadership in the church and taught that it was fine to give into these cultural requirements for employment.  The leaders allowed her to “mislead my servants in to sexual immorality and the eating of food sacrificed to idols.”

This was actually in direct defiance of the only requirements placed on the church (other than the two commandments of loving God and our Christian brothers and sisters) found in Acts 15.

The early church had a very divisive issue come up regarding the gentiles who were getting saved; they were not circumcised.  Some in the church were saying if the gentiles were not circumcised, they were not saved.  So the apostles met to discuss this issue, and determined that it was not of God to force circumcision and other requirements of the law on the Gentile believers.  They sent the church in Antioch a letter saying “It seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us not to burden you with anything beyond the following requirements: You are to abstain from food sacrificed to idols, from blood, from the meat of strangled animals and from sexual immorality. You will do well to avoid these things.” (Acts 15:28-29)

Compare that to what we read Jesus told the church in Thyatira “Now I say to the rest of you in Thyatira, to you who do not hold to her teaching and have not learned Satan’s so-called deep secrets, ‘I will not impose any other burden on you, except to hold on to what you have until I come.’”. Did you notice that?  The same words are used both by the early church leaders and Jesus: They both stated they will not impose or lay any other burden on the believers, and they both said the main issues were abstaining from sexual immorality and do not eat food sacrificed to idols.

This is the “spirit” of Jezebel directly described by our savior!  The trait the woman named Jezebel in Revelation had in common with Jezebel in the Old Testament was seducing His people into accepting sexual immorality and idol worship in the teachings and practice of His people. This was in direct defiance to the exact two things the early church was instructed not to do.

So before “discerning” a Jezebel spirit in someone, if that person is not seducing others into sexual immorality or encouraging them to eat meat offered to idols (compromising in their relationship with God and His importance in his or her life) then do not use that label, for this is what Jesus himself described it as.

I would also say that I don’t believe it was the fact that the leaders allowed the woman Jezebel to fellowship in their church (even with that lifestyle), that Jesus had the problem with.  It was the fact that as leaders, they allowed her to teach her false beliefs and accommodated it in the church, instead of correcting her and protecting the rest of the saints from such abusive and outright rebellious teaching.

So why do so many diagnose the “spirit of Jezebel” based on the domineering traits of the Old Testament Jezebel?  Let’s tackle that question next.

20150501_104633Gems from the Crown is a weekly blog from Crown of Glory Ministries to strengthen and encourage believers in Christ in their walk with God, especially in the areas of vision, authority, and identity. If you would like to have Gems from the Crown delivered directly to you, please click here.

 

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August 17, 2016 by Laura Diehl Leave a Comment

Is Faith Our Golden Ticket? Part 2

Have you ever been told the reason something bad is happening in your life is because you either don’t have enough faith, or because you are not walking in your God-given Kingdom authority?

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Yes, there are times those things are true.  But having enough faith or authority does not mean we will never again be affected by this sinful, fallen world in a way that hurts or shatters us. Eventually, those who hold to this Christian “golden ticket” belief either become angry with God for failing them, or they condemn themselves when something devastating happens and try to figure out what they did wrong.

This article is actually part two of this discussion. If you have not read part one, I recommend you read Is Faith Our Golden Ticket to a Good Life? Part One and then return to continue reading Part 2.

As I said last week, there are many scriptures to support how our faith stops the enemy, and learning how to walk in our Kingdom authority is powerful and effective against the enemy’s advances against us.

But does that mean if something which is obviously evil and not from God hits us, we are at fault for not being strong enough in faith or authority to stop it?

Let’s look at the Word of God to consider an answer to this question.

Moses was instructed directly by God to go back to Egypt to release the people of Israel from slavery and lead them into the land they were promised (which had been promised 400 years earlier and instead they became slaves in a foreign land). As Moses obeyed God, it got worse for the people as Pharaoh came down hard on them before they were released (Exodus 3-13). After they got their breakthrough and were set free, God led them crossing_of_red_sea___pastels_by_pawlis-d4b3hspspecifically to a place where they were cornered by the enemy, and once again things looked much worse after God stepped in and started leading them. They were very upset, not knowing that God had a bigger plan. God performed a miracle, causing the water to separate, giving the people an escape route (Exodus 14). None of these events had anything to do with the people’s lack of faith, and everything to do with God having a plan that could not be seen at the time of extreme difficulty.

Then there is always Job. Can you believe God called Satan’s attention to Job, and then allowed Satan to mess with him in such devastating ways? It didn’t matter how much faith Job had in God’s goodness; the Lord had lifted His “hedge of protection” from Job and let the enemy attack him time after time. He lost his wealth, his children and his health (Job 1, 2). And in the end, God restored Job’s health, wealth, and gave him more children (Job 42).

Okay, so those examples were under the old covenant. What about in the New Testament?

Well, what about when Jesus told Peter, “Satan has asked for you, that he may sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, that your faith should not fail; and when you have returned to Me, strengthen your brethren.” (Luke 22: 31-31 NKJV). Jesus didn’t tell Peter, “When the enemy comes to attack you, just take your God-given authority and use your faith to cast him off and all will be well”. Yes, Peter was later filled with the Holy Spirit and grew immensely in his faith, but that was still not a golden ticket to a world with no trials or instant deliverance for any of the apostles.

And then there is the Apostle Paul. If there was anyone who knew how to walk in faith and his God-given authority, he was the man.  Paul is also the one who wrote the most about our faith and our authority, instructing us to grow in these areas to defeat the enemy. And yet Paul, himself, tells us he has had “…far greater labors, far more imprisonments, with countless beatings, and often near death.  Five times I received at the hands of the Jews the forty lashes less one. Three times I was beaten Pieter_Mulier_A_Ship_Wrecked_in_a_Storm_off_a_Rocky_Coastwith rods. Once I was stoned. Three times I was shipwrecked; a night and a day I was adrift at sea; on frequent journeys, in danger from rivers, danger from robbers, danger from my own people, danger from Gentiles, danger in the city, danger in the wilderness, danger at sea, danger from false brothers; in toil and hardship, through many a sleepless night, in hunger and thirst, often without food, in cold and exposure.” 2 Corinthians 11:23-27 ESV). Was all of this because Paul had not yet learned how to have enough faith to keep these things from happening to him? I highly doubt it.

The story of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego has been brought to my attention several times lately (which is actually what prompted me to write this article).  When threatened with death, their famous answer was, “If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and he will deliver us from Your Majesty’s hand. But even if he does not, we want you to know, Your Majesty, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up” (Daniel 3:17-18 NIV). It seems these three gave that “cop-out” answer of “if it’s God’s will” which some of us have been told shows a lack of faith in God’s Word and stops Him from moving in our lives.

When I recently heard this story once again in a Sunday morning message, it caused me to think of those in Hebrews 11. This entire chapter lists out those who stood in faith and gained what was promised, and also those who did not live to see the answer they were standing in faith to see. What’s up with that?

I want to go back to what I said in part one of this open Biblediscussion. Faith and trust can be interchanged. I can have a bold faith in scriptures I have picked out, believing God is going to do exactly what those scriptures promise. Or I can have a trust that comes from knowing my God intimately, so that when I stand on the promises in His word, I also turn the situation over to Him, knowing He is in full control, no matter what I see, feel, or hear.

Sometimes, I believe our faith can get in the way of God’s greater plan. Most of our growth actually comes through adversity. When God knows a greater good can come from the trial, sometimes He will trump our faith and authority with His greater good, especially when we have a heart that wants His will to be done over our own will.

In other words, God doesn’t need our opinions or demands (sometimes disguised as “faith”) in order to do His job.  He needs our trust.  He needs our belief in His ability to see, know, and do, what we cannot see, we cannot know, and we cannot do.

I have not said all of this to discount faith, or to discourage anyone from growing in learning how to walk in our God-given authority. These things are a must! I have written this to remind us that God is still bigger than our faith and our authority. He is sovereign and has the final word on everything. If you have done all you know to do, trust God with the outcome. This is especially true when your faith is met with resistance, or the opposite happens of what you were believing in faith. Don’t’ quit and don’t blame God for being God.

As someone who knows what he is talking about has written, “Having done all, stand!”

20150501_104633Gems from the Crown is a weekly blog from Crown of Glory Ministries to strengthen and encourage believers in Christ in their walk with God, especially in the areas of vision, authority, and identity. If you would like to have Gems from the Crown delivered directly to you, please click here.

 

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August 9, 2016 by Laura Diehl Leave a Comment

God Really is Everywhere!

Psalm 139:7-12 talks about how God is everywhere; that there is not a single place we can go to get away from Him.

How do we know this is true? We can’t see God, InflatableBalloonsso how do we know God really is everywhere? Let’s think about some things you know are there, even though you can’t see it. There is electricity. You can see a light turn on because of electricity, but you can’t actually see the electricity. How about air? You might see a balloon filled with air, or feel the wind, but you can’t actually see the air. Have you ever smelled something horrible, like a skunk, but not actually seen what was causing the bad smell?

night-315204_960_720That is similar to how we know God is everywhere. We can see the result of Him being around us. People, plants, animals, the ocean, the sun, moon and stars are all things God created. We are completely surrounded by what we CAN see, what God continues to create and holds together. Are you breathing? That breath comes from God giving it to you.

God really is everywhere! Some people don’t like that, but it is actually a very good thing, because that means whenever we need Him to help us, to be with us, to fight for us, He is always right there. That isn’t just a good thing; it is totally and completely awesome!

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