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June 24, 2025 by Laura Diehl Leave a Comment

302: Rediscovering Purpose After Child Loss (with Kim Harms)

In today’s episode, Laura talks with Kim Harms, who has lost both a mom and a son to suicide and also found herself widowed.  Even with all these losses, Kim has been able to learn how to live a life of meaning and purpose, and loves to encourage others that they can do the same. 

Dr. Kimberly Harms A warm portrait of Dr. Kimberly Harms—award-winning author, international speaker, and two-time breast cancer survivor—radiating strength and compassion.has been around the block in life. She has served as a Commissioned Officer in the United States Public Health Service, a dental school professor, a grief counselor, a death doula, a civil mediator, a clinical dentist with her late husband Jim in Farmington MN, a school board Chair, President of an international women’s organization, the first woman President of the Minnesota Dental Association, a National Spokesperson for the American Dental Association (21 years), an award-winning, best-selling author and international speaker on the topics of grief, conflict and legacy planning. She has also suffered many personal losses, including the deaths by suicide of her mother and son and the death by broken heart of her husband after their son’s death. Her most important role now is mother to her two surviving children and grandmother to 6 precious grandchildren.

(Note: The views and opinions of our guests outside of this podcast may not be in agreement with GPS Hope.) 

 

Links Mentioned in this episode:

To connect with Kim: DrKimberlyHarms.com and RethinkingDeath.Life 

Click here to find out more about the Reflections of Hope: July Edition 

 

Birthdays:

Cassie Martinez was born on June 22 and left us at age 19.

Lukas Christofferson was born on June 28 and left us at age 19.

Dominic Cardenus was born on June 28 and left us at age 24.

 

If you would like your child mentioned on the podcast the week of his or her birthday, click here to fill out the short form with the needed information.

The special song written for our children’s birthdays I Remember Well can be heard here.

Remember to Hold On Pain Eases; there is HOPE!

www.gpshope.org

 

To have Laura come and minister at your event, contact us at office@gpshope.org.

Grieving Parents Sharing Hope (GPS Hope) is here to walk with parents through the darkness of child-loss, guiding them to a place of hope, light and purpose.

It is a safe place for anyone who has lost a child from this earth. There is no shame or judgment in where you are in this journey, including if you are struggling in your relationship with God or your faith has been completely shattered.

June 20, 2025 by Laura Diehl Leave a Comment

Is God Punishing Me for My Past? A Word for Grieving Parents Struggling with Guilt

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I get enough emails on this topic that I knew it was time to talk about it in a deeper way. Some of you are wrestling with a haunting question that you may not even dare to say out loud:

Did God allow my child to die as a punishment for something I did—or didn’t do?

Let me say this as clearly and firmly as I can:

No. God is NOT punishing you.

I can say that with confidence, and I want to share why.

Suffering Is Not the Same as Punishment

The Bible gives us so many examples showing that suffering is not a sign of God’s punishment.

  • John the Baptist was beheaded in his 30s, and yet Jesus said no prophet was greater than him (John 14:3–12).
  • When Jesus healed the blind man in John 9, people asked, “Who sinned? This man or his parents?” Jesus said, “Neither.”
  • Job was called blameless by God, yet he lost all 10 of his children and suffered immensely.
  • Mary, the mother of our Savior, watched her perfect, sinless son be executed on a cross.

He came to take on all the punishment—past, present, and future. That’s the gift of the cross.

If suffering equals punishment, then Jesus’ death was pointless. But we know it wasn’t. He came to take on all the punishment—past, present, and future. That’s the gift of the cross.

Yes, we all deal with consequences in this life. If I speed, I might get a ticket or worse. But poverty, sickness, and suffering? These things are part of our fallen, broken world. The rain falls on the just and the unjust.

If God were punishing people by taking their children, we would see people dropping dead all around us because their parent messed up. That’s not how God works.

We live in a broken world. And though your child’s death is tragic, it is not God’s punishment for anything you’ve done.

The World Is Violent—God Is Not

I watched a fascinating interview between Eugene Peterson (the translator of The Message Bible) and Bono from U2. One thing Bono said really stuck with me: “God isn’t a violent God, but the world is a violent place.”

We live in a broken world. And though your child’s death is tragic, it is not God’s punishment for anything you’ve done. If you’ve been carrying that weight, I invite you to lay it down at the foot of the cross—once and for all.

Let’s Talk About Guilt

Guilt comes in all kinds of forms. Maybe you feel like you should have said or done something differently. Sometimes what we call guilt is actually regret.

But I want to talk about a different kind of guilt—the kind where you feel responsible for something your child did.

A mom once emailed me about her son who died in a car accident. He crossed the center line, and not only did he lose his life, but so did two others. She was devastated and overwhelmed with guilt—not just for his death, but for what he had done.

But here’s the truth: it was an accident. No matter what caused it—distraction, fatigue, recklessness—it was not intentional. That’s what makes it an accident.

And it was not this mother’s fault. She wasn’t driving. She wasn’t even in the car. And yet she felt like she didn’t have the right to grieve her own son’s death as deeply as the parents who lost their daughter and unborn grandchild.

If this sounds familiar, I want to say something straight to your heart:

Your child’s death, no matter how it happened, is a devastating loss. And your right to grieve is not dependent on the circumstances.

You do have the right to grieve your child—no matter the circumstances.

Your grief is real. It’s valid. And you are allowed to cry, to scream, to ache.

Sometimes we hold on to guilt as a way to “pay” for our pain, thinking it makes our grief more acceptable. But sometimes that guilt is actually masking a deeper guilt—the guilt of letting ourselves grieve.

Let me ask you this: If your close friend’s child caused an accident like this, would you tell her she was a bad mom? Would you say she should feel guilty? Of course not.

You would probably wrap your arms around her, offer compassion, and remind her that what happened wasn’t her fault.

So why do you believe this about yourself? Your child’s death, no matter how it happened, is a devastating loss. And your right to grieve is not dependent on the circumstances.

Releasing Guilt That Isn’t Yours

I watched a TED Talk by the mother of one of the Columbine shooters. Her son killed twelve students and a teacher before taking his own life. The world shamed her: “How could you not know?” She took on that guilt for years.

Eventually, she realized that what her son did was not her fault. And now, she speaks out for greater awareness of mental illness.

Like her, it’s okay for you to let go of guilt that doesn’t belong to you.

Maybe in your head you already know this… but your heart hasn’t caught up yet. So let this truth settle into your soul:

Jesus already took your guilt. Before you were born. Before your child was born. He carried it all to the cross your sin, your shame, your guilt and paid the price in full.Jesus already took your guilt. Before you were born. Before your child was born. He carried it all to the cross—your sin, your shame, your guilt—and paid the price in full.

You may be asking God to take away your guilt, but He already has. The gift is waiting. Now it’s your turn to accept it.

A better prayer might be:

“Lord, help me accept the gift of freedom that You’ve already given. Help me release this guilt that isn’t mine to carry. Help me walk in the freedom that You died to give me.”

Freedom Is Already Yours

If Christ is in you, then freedom is in you. We often think of that in relation to sin, but let’s go a step deeper.

Unforgiveness is a sin. And isn’t guilt often a form of not forgiving yourself?

I’m not saying this to heap more guilt on you. I’m saying it to give you another reason to let yourself off the hook.

You Are Not Being Punished

Let’s circle back to where we began:

You are not being punished.

God is not angry with you. He hasn’t turned His back on you.

If you’re struggling with guilt—over your child’s death, your parenting, or a thousand imagined “what ifs”—Jesus sees it. He carried it. He is offering you peace.

Reach out and take it.


NOTE: This was partially taken from the Grieving Parents Sharing Hope podcast episode 301. Click here to listen to the full discussion, or look for the Grieving Parents Sharing Hope podcast on your favorite listening app.

You can grieve while holding on to grace. And that means letting go of guilt.

If this touched your heart, I encourage you to share it with another grieving parent who may be quietly asking the same questions.

And if you’d like more encouragement, I’ve created a free resource called 10 Tips to Overcome Guilt. You can download below.

Remember: It’s okay to grieve while holding on to grace.


If you would like to join thousands of other bereaved parents receiving a weekly word of hope delivered to your inbox, let us know below.


Award-winning grief support books by Laura Diehl, including “When Tragedy Strikes,” “Reflections of Hope,” and “Hope for the Future,” shown with Illumination Book Awards.

AWARD WINNING AUTHOR, LAURA DIEHL, has written several impactful books that provide comfort and guidance to those navigating the painful journey of child loss, after the death of her own daughter in 2011. Her most acclaimed work, When Tragedy Strikes: Rebuilding Your Life with Hope and Healing After the Death of Your Child, has received multiple accolades, including the 2017 Gold Medal Centauri Christian Book Award for Non-Fiction and a Silver Medal in the 2018 Illumination Awards. Several of her other books have won awards as well.

In addition to her writing, Laura is an ordained minister and has an extensive background in international children’s ministry. She is a sought-after speaker and singer at grief conferences and churches, known for her compassionate approach and deep understanding of the grieving process, especially the unique loss of a child. Through her weekly award-winning podcast, her writings, and other resources provided by GPS Hope, Laura and her husband, Dave, continue to provide hope and healing to thousands of parents worldwide, helping them find light in the midst of profound loss and darkness.

For more information about Laura’s award-winning books go to gpshope.org/books.
To find out more about Laura Diehl and the ministry of Grieving Parents Sharing Hope (GPS Hope) visit gpshope.org.

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June 17, 2025 by Laura Diehl Leave a Comment

301: Is God Punishing Me?

In this compassionate episode of Grieving Parents Sharing Hope, Laura Diehl speaks directly to grieving parents who are silently battling guilt after the loss of their child—especially when they wonder, “Was this my fault?” or even, “Is God punishing me?”

Drawing from personal emails, Scripture, and real-life stories, Laura offers insight into:

  • Why suffering is not a sign of God’s punishment
  • How guilt can wrongly silence your right to grieve
  • A powerful reminder that Jesus has already taken all our guilt and shame
  • Practical ways to begin releasing guilt and walking in freedom

Whether you’re struggling with what your child did—or didn’t do—or simply feeling crushed by the weight of “what ifs,” this episode is a lifeline of truth and grace.

 

Links Mentioned in this episode:

Find out more about the 2026 Grief Cruise and/or the Renew and Remember Retreat here.

Click here  to request 10 Tips to Overcome Guilt.

Listen to the episode The Difference Between Regret and Guilt with guest Nancy Weil.

Birthdays:

Kari-Lee Venning (Birrell) was born on June 19 and left us at age 25.

Cassie Martinez was born on June 20 and left us at age 19.

 

If you would like your child mentioned on the podcast the week of his or her birthday, click here to fill out the short form with the needed information.

The special song written for our children’s birthdays I Remember Well can be heard here.

Remember to Hold On Pain Eases; there is HOPE!

www.gpshope.org

 

To have Laura come and minister at your event, contact us at office@gpshope.org.

Grieving Parents Sharing Hope (GPS Hope) is here to walk with parents through the darkness of child-loss, guiding them to a place of hope, light and purpose.

It is a safe place for anyone who has lost a child from this earth. There is no shame or judgment in where you are in this journey, including if you are struggling in your relationship with God or your faith has been completely shattered.

June 13, 2025 by Laura Diehl Leave a Comment

When Dads Grieve: A Conversation on Faith, Family, and Holding On

When Dads Grieve: A Conversation on Faith, Family, and Holding On

I heard something recently that struck a deep chord in me: God does not call us to the outcome. He calls us to faithfulness.

That truth, shared by Dave in their conversation, set the tone for a heartfelt and honest dialogue between two grieving fathers, (Matt and Dave) who both know the pain of losing a child. They came from different circumstances: one a military loss, one after a long-term illness. But the emotions, the questions, and the faith they wrestled with were profoundly similar.

Different Losses, Shared Pain

Dave reflected on the unexpected loss of his daughter, Becca, who had a long-term illness. “Even though she was sick, her death still shocked us. Nothing really prepares you for that moment.” Matt, who lost his son, Eric, in the military, noted that while there’s always a lingering awareness of the risk in military families, “When it happens, it’s still shattering. And then the media… they show up within an hour, looking for a story, not fully grasping the gravity of your grief.”

Yet, as Matt shared, “God gave us a grace in that moment—just what we needed to get through it.”

Don’t Let This Pain Be Wasted

Inspirational quote: "God, don't let this pain be wasted." — gpshope.orgOne of the most poignant moments came when Dave recalled a prayer he whispered early in his grief: “God, don’t let this pain be wasted.” It became a turning point—a plea for purpose in the middle of anguish.

Grief experts say that the early stages of grief can last five years or more. “If you’re only a few months, or a couple of years in,” Dave said, “you’re still an early griever. Give yourself grace.”

The Role of Church and Family

Matt shared how grief gave him a renewed appreciation for church and family. “When someone lacks both—a church community and strong family ties—it’s even harder. The enemy tries to isolate us. My prayer is that people reinvest in those relationships.”

Quote image: “As time goes on, some don’t understand why you haven’t moved on, but God’s timeline for healing is not the world’s timeline.” – gpshope.orgDave agreed, adding that many grieving parents, especially Christians, struggle with returning to church. “Churches often rally in the beginning, but as time goes on, some don’t understand why you haven’t ‘moved on.’ But God’s timeline for healing is not the world’s timeline.”

What’s essential, they both emphasized, is pressing into God. “Let Him use your pain to deepen your relationship with Him,” said Dave. “Through Becca’s death, I gained a deeper understanding of God the Father’s love. If my love for her was so great, how much greater was His love in giving His own Son?”

Matt echoed that revelation: “I thought I’d pull away from God. But instead, it pulled me closer. Once you realize what God gave up for us, it compels you to stay the course.”

Father’s Day: Still Tender, Still Sacred

Both Matt and Dave spoke candidly about Father’s Day. For Dave, the first one after Becca passed was devastating. “It does ease a bit over the years, but that ache never fully leaves.”

Matt shared how his family honors his son, Eric, every year on June 5, the anniversary of his passing, leading up to Father’s Day. “We put out flags. We have a metal cutout of a kneeling soldier. Our neighbors know—it’s part of how we remember. And our other sons have honored me through their own growth and strength.”

For both men, Father’s Day became less something to avoid and more a way to remember—with reverence, with love, and with the joy of God’s healing.

A Call to Stay in the Game

A word of encouragement for fathers walking through grief: God sees your pain and meets you in it with strength and miracles. You are not alone. – gpshope.orgMatt left us with a powerful reflection: “Fathers have many chances to pull away when life gets hard. But when you hang in there—when you stay available, stay committed—it matters. On Father’s Day, when you’ve poured into your family, they pour back into you. That’s a miracle all its own.”

He continued, “To the dads out there: stay in the game. Push through the pain. Because that’s when God begins His most miraculous work.”

A Final Prayer

They closed their conversation in prayer—thanking God for families, for His strength, for His faithfulness.

“Lord, bless each father reading this today. Let them feel Your presence in their deepest places of grief. Help them press into You. Strengthen their families. And may their faith rise as they commit their ways to You. In Jesus’ name, amen.”

Don’t Let the Pain Be Wasted

There’s no guidebook for grieving as a father. But in their conversation, Matt and Dave reminded us of something powerful: healing doesn’t mean forgetting. It means honoring. And above all, it means being faithful—even when the outcome is not what we prayed for.

As Dave said so well: “Don’t let this pain be wasted.”


NOTE: This was partially taken from the Grieving Parents Sharing Hope podcast episode 300. Click here to listen to the full discussion, or look for the Grieving Parents Sharing Hope podcast on your favorite listening app.

If you would like to join thousands of other bereaved parents receiving a weekly word of hope delivered to your inbox, let us know below.

Award-winning grief support books by Laura Diehl, including “When Tragedy Strikes,” “Reflections of Hope,” and “Hope for the Future,” shown with Illumination Book Awards.

AWARD WINNING AUTHOR, LAURA DIEHL, has written several impactful books that provide comfort and guidance to those navigating the painful journey of child loss, after the death of her own daughter in 2011. Her most acclaimed work, When Tragedy Strikes: Rebuilding Your Life with Hope and Healing After the Death of Your Child, has received multiple accolades, including the 2017 Gold Medal Centauri Christian Book Award for Non-Fiction and a Silver Medal in the 2018 Illumination Awards. Several of her other books have won awards as well.

In addition to her writing, Laura is an ordained minister and has an extensive background in international children’s ministry. She is a sought-after speaker and singer at grief conferences and churches, known for her compassionate approach and deep understanding of the grieving process, especially the unique loss of a child. Through her weekly award-winning podcast, her writings, and other resources provided by GPS Hope, Laura and her husband, Dave, continue to provide hope and healing to thousands of parents worldwide, helping them find light in the midst of profound loss and darkness.

For more information about Laura’s award-winning books go to gpshope.org/books.

To find out more about Laura Diehl and the ministry of Grieving Parents Sharing Hope (GPS Hope) visit gpshope.org.

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June 10, 2025 by Laura Diehl Leave a Comment

300: Two Dads Talk about Child Loss and Father’s Day (with Matt Poelman)

In today’s episode you will be hearing from Laura’s husband, Dave, along with a long-time friend, Matt Poelman, who lost his son, Eric, while serving in the military in Iraq. 

Some of the things discussed were:

  • The emotions Matt felt 
  • How he and his wife, Sally, dealt with the death of their son differently
  • How he feels about Father’s Day
  • How losing his son has impacted his faith in God

Matt also shares what it is like, twenty years later, offering hope to those who are just starting this journey, closing in a prayer especially for the listeners who are fathers.

Matt Poelman has been a Christ-follower since his youth.  He was the 5th of 6 children whose family moved from the Netherlands to the state of Michigan.  Matt was born and raised in Michigan and the Chicago area.  

When volunteering at a mission aviation facility in North Carolina, Matt met his wife, Sally, and they were married in 1980. They became a Gold Star family in 2005 when their son, Eric, lost his life in the Army while deployed in Iraq.  

Matt has a twenty-six year aviation career in maintaining a variety of aircraft, and another twenty-one years as an instructor in avaiation maintenance. He has just retired from full-time teaching but continues with aviation for the FAA, testing graduate students to issue aircraft mechanic certificates.  Matt & Sally are enjoying their 5 grand-daughters and 2 grand-sons.

(Note: The views and opinions of our guests outside of this podcast may not be in agreement with GPS Hope.)

Links Mentioned in this episode:

Find out more about the 2026 Grief Cruise and/or the Renew and Remember Retreat here.

Click here to look at both the monthly and the yearly Reflections of Hope books.  

Birthdays:

Tyler Harkness was born on June 8 and left us at age 26. 

Allie Custer was born on June 12 and left us at age 29.

 

If you would like your child mentioned on the podcast the week of his or her birthday, click here to fill out the short form with the needed information.

The special song written for our children’s birthdays I Remember Well can be heard here.

Remember to Hold On Pain Eases; there is HOPE!

www.gpshope.org

 

To have Laura come and minister at your event, contact us at office@gpshope.org.

Grieving Parents Sharing Hope (GPS Hope) is here to walk with parents through the darkness of child-loss, guiding them to a place of hope, light and purpose.

It is a safe place for anyone who has lost a child from this earth. There is no shame or judgment in where you are in this journey, including if you are struggling in your relationship with God or your faith has been completely shattered.

 

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